Many of the males I talk to would totally disagree with anyone claiming such a thing as too much sex exist. Webster's dictionary gives a definition for women with so called problem a name, nymphomania n. uncontrollable desire by a woman for sexual intercourse.
Uncontrollable who sets the standard? If every time you are with your mate you have the urge to make love, does that classify as not in control. If you fantasize about doing your mate in a elevator or any public place does that count? Does simply gazing across a crowded room and catching your mates eye makes you desire them so much you make an excuse and leave so you can engage in hot passionate sex, count? All of the instances I just said do happen on a daily basis with some women I know, and I don't consider them to be nymphomaniacs.
I think it's healthy for you to want your mate consistently and uncontrollably, problems usually occur in a relationship when that wanting is not reciprocated by the other. That is a recipe for disaster. Women, what do you think would happen if you whispered sweet uncontrollable desire to your mate on a daily basis same goes for Men? I bet you can have what ever you like. You tell me.
Luv Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Tuesday, October 12, 2010
Do You Need A Man?
Recently I had the privilege of attending a Hen Party. Remember I asked to be invited to one if anyone knew of a group that would accept me. Well my prayers have been answered.
We had a awesome time and there was a good representation of young, middle, and senior women. We even had a toddler running around just like I did in my grandmothers group. It was the best gathering of women I have attended in a very long while. Not judgemental just heartfelt talk, not gossip, real issues we personally are going through.
A big topic was some women wanted men and a couple made the bold statement they did not want or need a man at this point in their lives. I think when we here women make announcements like this most of us think, they have probably been hurt or they tend to want to have relationships with other women. Either way we think something is wrong. As the conversation went on these women made it very clear they just did not want another human dictating in any way, shape or form what they did with their time, money, or anything else. When they got ready to do something they had no one to answer to but themselves. After listening I kinda envied them for a moment.
After my envious thought was gone. I realized how judgemental I had been in the pass when hearing this phrase uttered. I want do that anymore. The next thing is I learnt more about myself by listening to others. I like having a man to answer to when it comes to spending, traveling, budgeting, and just all together living with. I like having him to vent my frustrations of the day, month, year, life with. I am a woman who needs a man. Which are you?
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
We had a awesome time and there was a good representation of young, middle, and senior women. We even had a toddler running around just like I did in my grandmothers group. It was the best gathering of women I have attended in a very long while. Not judgemental just heartfelt talk, not gossip, real issues we personally are going through.
A big topic was some women wanted men and a couple made the bold statement they did not want or need a man at this point in their lives. I think when we here women make announcements like this most of us think, they have probably been hurt or they tend to want to have relationships with other women. Either way we think something is wrong. As the conversation went on these women made it very clear they just did not want another human dictating in any way, shape or form what they did with their time, money, or anything else. When they got ready to do something they had no one to answer to but themselves. After listening I kinda envied them for a moment.
After my envious thought was gone. I realized how judgemental I had been in the pass when hearing this phrase uttered. I want do that anymore. The next thing is I learnt more about myself by listening to others. I like having a man to answer to when it comes to spending, traveling, budgeting, and just all together living with. I like having him to vent my frustrations of the day, month, year, life with. I am a woman who needs a man. Which are you?
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Monday, October 11, 2010
Till Death Do You Part
If you are numbered among the few couples that have stood the test of time, anger, sorrow, disappointment, regret, sickness, children, in-laws, the list is endless. You have made it to what seems in this day and age a elite club.
Congratulations and keep up the self sacrificing, total commitment, unmovable, till death do us part love for one another.
I recently had a talk with a therapist who insisted that I did not understand what my husband of 28+years was saying to me. That there was a undercurrent of him just keeping the peace. Sure I understand that has played a roll in the past on both our parts we would not have made it this far without it. But you must know that if you talk to a therapist do not let them interject in your relationship what is not there for that particular session. I think having someone to talk to is great whether its a therapist,councilor or clergy. I also know people will sometimes speak to you from a point of reference gained either from their experience or someone else.
I know some might say that's why you should go to a seasoned person, but not everyone can afford the sometimes overwhelming price tag. Lets face health coverage is not so forth coming in this arena.
So keep up the good work and continue to endure. When you are enjoying the fruits of all your labor of LOVE you will be able to share with those just starting out or those pressing through how rewarding it truly is.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Congratulations and keep up the self sacrificing, total commitment, unmovable, till death do us part love for one another.
I recently had a talk with a therapist who insisted that I did not understand what my husband of 28+years was saying to me. That there was a undercurrent of him just keeping the peace. Sure I understand that has played a roll in the past on both our parts we would not have made it this far without it. But you must know that if you talk to a therapist do not let them interject in your relationship what is not there for that particular session. I think having someone to talk to is great whether its a therapist,councilor or clergy. I also know people will sometimes speak to you from a point of reference gained either from their experience or someone else.
I know some might say that's why you should go to a seasoned person, but not everyone can afford the sometimes overwhelming price tag. Lets face health coverage is not so forth coming in this arena.
So keep up the good work and continue to endure. When you are enjoying the fruits of all your labor of LOVE you will be able to share with those just starting out or those pressing through how rewarding it truly is.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Does Your Husband Know Your Body?
Say your family had a chance at 1 million dollars. All your Husband had to do was pick you out of a line up 10 women. Hold up you know theirs a catch. All the women are the same complexion as you, all the same height as you, same color hair as you, here it comes but you head is covered and you,re naked.
What good is playing this game? It might not when you a million bucks but it could save your life.
Plenty studies have shown and many witnesses have come forward saying the start of a sometimes fatal disease was found by their partner. Women have told stories where their husband in the course having feeling their mates breast every night they felt something different and pressed them to check it out. Later to find out it was the beginning of breast cancer. The holds true for women caressing their mates scrotum and feeling what seem to be swollen or extra testicles. Later finding out it could be cancer or some hormone imbalance.
So if you did not have enough reason in the past to enjoy the intimate touch of your mate add this to the list. Honey I want to feel you up for health reasons.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
What good is playing this game? It might not when you a million bucks but it could save your life.
Plenty studies have shown and many witnesses have come forward saying the start of a sometimes fatal disease was found by their partner. Women have told stories where their husband in the course having feeling their mates breast every night they felt something different and pressed them to check it out. Later to find out it was the beginning of breast cancer. The holds true for women caressing their mates scrotum and feeling what seem to be swollen or extra testicles. Later finding out it could be cancer or some hormone imbalance.
So if you did not have enough reason in the past to enjoy the intimate touch of your mate add this to the list. Honey I want to feel you up for health reasons.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Wednesday, October 6, 2010
Time Well Spent
So, I am late writing my Blog today. Why, because soon as I got through with my walk my husband announces he is going to the neighborhood flee market(wonder why they call it that?) to find a holster. I ask him is that a invitation for me to go? He takes a minute and announces you have so much to do I try not to bother you.
I know we have touched on this before but here it is in action my husband thought he would be bothering me to ask me to accompany him out. I'm telling you I was all over it. I told him it is never a bother for me to spend time with him and I never want him to not ask me because he thinks that again. I would sit in the bathroom with him if he wanted to talk to me, that's just how much he means to me. I thought he already understood. I mean we have been together for 28 years and we are revisiting this issue.
Just goes to show Ladies and Gentlemen we do need to stay on top (no pun intended) of words spoken and unspoken cause you never know when the opportunity to reinvest in your relationship is at hand. Communication is the Key.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
I know we have touched on this before but here it is in action my husband thought he would be bothering me to ask me to accompany him out. I'm telling you I was all over it. I told him it is never a bother for me to spend time with him and I never want him to not ask me because he thinks that again. I would sit in the bathroom with him if he wanted to talk to me, that's just how much he means to me. I thought he already understood. I mean we have been together for 28 years and we are revisiting this issue.
Just goes to show Ladies and Gentlemen we do need to stay on top (no pun intended) of words spoken and unspoken cause you never know when the opportunity to reinvest in your relationship is at hand. Communication is the Key.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
How Much Cleaning Does It Need?
Everything is better clean at least that's what most of us where taught. So whats up with men talking about the scent of a Woman? Did you ever see Al Pachino in the movie by the same name , a classic. I don't know if it was a good or bad scent but it was a scent.
I remember my grandmothers hen parties(women getting together and having conversations about their sexual health and their marriages or relationships in the sixties) they would say stuff like, He can smell her stuff if it was in another state, my husband can smell me coming, if it smell like fish you need some apple cider vinegar, its okay if it smell like onion its just working its way out, and thousands more. As a little girl I thought how repulsive all this talk was, but I hung around like watching a bad accident you just gotta look, in my case listen.
I learnt way back then you only use the red hot water bottle once a month to clean. It still amazes me how we stop passing the information down. The people that make products want you to buy as much of their stuff as you possibly can so sometimes you get the info twisted like vaginal douching. It is good but too much erodes your lining and can cause dryness and then you need another product for that. I'm just saying when in question maybe we can find common ground ladies to talk to a elder of your tribe, you know grandmother, mother, aunt, or maybe someone that you trust or you can call me if I don't know the answer I will call one of my tribe elders.
Wow I really miss those hen parties wish I could find one today do you know any elders still having these? Let me know so I can ask to join. You know you have to ask cause each circle was unique.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
I remember my grandmothers hen parties(women getting together and having conversations about their sexual health and their marriages or relationships in the sixties) they would say stuff like, He can smell her stuff if it was in another state, my husband can smell me coming, if it smell like fish you need some apple cider vinegar, its okay if it smell like onion its just working its way out, and thousands more. As a little girl I thought how repulsive all this talk was, but I hung around like watching a bad accident you just gotta look, in my case listen.
I learnt way back then you only use the red hot water bottle once a month to clean. It still amazes me how we stop passing the information down. The people that make products want you to buy as much of their stuff as you possibly can so sometimes you get the info twisted like vaginal douching. It is good but too much erodes your lining and can cause dryness and then you need another product for that. I'm just saying when in question maybe we can find common ground ladies to talk to a elder of your tribe, you know grandmother, mother, aunt, or maybe someone that you trust or you can call me if I don't know the answer I will call one of my tribe elders.
Wow I really miss those hen parties wish I could find one today do you know any elders still having these? Let me know so I can ask to join. You know you have to ask cause each circle was unique.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Monday, October 4, 2010
Let's Talk about Sex
It seems I can not say this enough. This weekend in a service I attended the minister just touched on the subject of what my show is about and such a cool wave went over the people. The call to action is now. We must have open dialogue on the issues facing married, singles, and teens when it comes to their sexual health, in our congregations.
When the ministers finally get a word about this the rest will follow. Big shout out to those of you leading the charge your members will be wiser and stronger. They will be able to help a confused, depressed, lonely, soul in need of godly council. So keep up the sex talk, as most people religious or not like to call it. I like to think of it as knowledge about what and how God intended us to use these absolutely beautiful bodies of ours.
Next time someone says the word SEX in your place of worship try not to look like you have never ever ever ever partaken of it. Unless your a virgin and if that's the case shout that from the roof tops. As always let me know what you think if it comes up, no pun intended.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
When the ministers finally get a word about this the rest will follow. Big shout out to those of you leading the charge your members will be wiser and stronger. They will be able to help a confused, depressed, lonely, soul in need of godly council. So keep up the sex talk, as most people religious or not like to call it. I like to think of it as knowledge about what and how God intended us to use these absolutely beautiful bodies of ours.
Next time someone says the word SEX in your place of worship try not to look like you have never ever ever ever partaken of it. Unless your a virgin and if that's the case shout that from the roof tops. As always let me know what you think if it comes up, no pun intended.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Friday, October 1, 2010
I WANNA see PAPPY get a SHOT
I did not know my granddaughter could cry so loud. She was totally upset because we sent her from the room as I prepared to give my Husband a shot in his hip.
She protested so much we had to stop and have a conversation about it. She thought since my grandson was able to be in the room she should to. We tried to explain, her brother is a boy like Pappy and he has the same body parts so it's okay for him. She is smart and quick as a whip, without missing a beat she replied, but Uni (that's what they call me) is a girl and she in the room.
Needful to say at 4 years old we had to have a in depth talk about boy verses girl, wife verses husband role. I think my children where 8 to 10 before we had to have this talk. Is it the world we live on that's causing this? Or just being caught in situations that warrant conversation. Then taking the time to thoughtfully explain it to the young ones so they can understand.
Have you had this conversation yet? Let me know how you handled it.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
She protested so much we had to stop and have a conversation about it. She thought since my grandson was able to be in the room she should to. We tried to explain, her brother is a boy like Pappy and he has the same body parts so it's okay for him. She is smart and quick as a whip, without missing a beat she replied, but Uni (that's what they call me) is a girl and she in the room.
Needful to say at 4 years old we had to have a in depth talk about boy verses girl, wife verses husband role. I think my children where 8 to 10 before we had to have this talk. Is it the world we live on that's causing this? Or just being caught in situations that warrant conversation. Then taking the time to thoughtfully explain it to the young ones so they can understand.
Have you had this conversation yet? Let me know how you handled it.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Thursday, September 30, 2010
I Am Tickling Your Mother
You thought it would never happen, but guess what you where wrong. Your making Love to your mate. I mean earth shattering, breath taking, bed moving, one of you screaming, going to be soar for a day or two kind of action. The door opens and you see your child standing there with the most horrifying look you have ever seen on their face. You scramble to regain some composure and then what?
Do you make up something to tell them like Momma had something in her eye. Daddy was just playing horsey with Mommy. Mom and Dad where trying to kill a spider. Daddy had a boo boo and Mommy was kissing it to make it all better. The list could go on.
Or do you calm the child get dressed and then have a talk about their sexual health, how they where conceived. How much information do you give them? Depending on the age I think the terrified look usually is gotten under the age of 10. Too bad most parents just go with the excuses and the child is left with this mental picture and ridiculous explanation of what was going on. At least that's what we did.
My daughter age 8, we forgot to lock the door. My Husbands explanation I'm tickling your Mother. My daughter the next day tells her brother don't ever tickle her again, Mommy almost died! Daddy was tickling her and she kept calling God.
Stop and communicate even with the youngest in the house.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Do you make up something to tell them like Momma had something in her eye. Daddy was just playing horsey with Mommy. Mom and Dad where trying to kill a spider. Daddy had a boo boo and Mommy was kissing it to make it all better. The list could go on.
Or do you calm the child get dressed and then have a talk about their sexual health, how they where conceived. How much information do you give them? Depending on the age I think the terrified look usually is gotten under the age of 10. Too bad most parents just go with the excuses and the child is left with this mental picture and ridiculous explanation of what was going on. At least that's what we did.
My daughter age 8, we forgot to lock the door. My Husbands explanation I'm tickling your Mother. My daughter the next day tells her brother don't ever tickle her again, Mommy almost died! Daddy was tickling her and she kept calling God.
Stop and communicate even with the youngest in the house.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Wednesday, September 29, 2010
The Good Wife
There is a show in it's second season on TV, that is full of issues about the dynamics of power, politics, and marriage. I am usually not interested in such fictional drama, but I do like to spend as much time as possible with my Husband. This is one of his favorite shows. Last nights episode caused a discussion that had us both laughing and thinking about how to handle some hot topics in our own relationship.
The wife who has been cheated on by her political husband and stood by him through the scandal, is being pursued by her boss who has known her since college. She has feelings for him but she is a honorable and loyal wife. Her husband and her have been sleeping in separate beds. The husband went and saw her in action as a high powered lawyer last night and really got fired up for her. When she got home he initiated contact with her and she responded by telling him she had to study. He continued his advances, she continued to resist. He finally pressed her against a wall and let her know she did not have to do a thing he got this. His head disappeared and her face relaxed.
I ask my husband when I come in and he says I am on a rampage about something wrong in the house does he think this would work for us? After he got through laughing, his answer was yes but knowing me after he was done I would go back to what ever I was ranting and raving about.
Wow, I thought he knew that this kind of submission on his part would lend itself to a different kind of submission on my part. I know the things that where upsetting me when I came in would still be their but I would handle them with less tension.
I had a discussion with a couple I know about a movie the wife and I love, you might have heard of it, Something New. Her husband always contends we should not be watching stuff like that because we want our men to do what the man in this movie did, paint her toes etc.
So do guys never watch things on TV or Movies and want their wives to do any of it? Or do they just not share they would like for some of the things to be done? We women are really open about that kind of stuff. Once again communication is the key. What do you think? I look forward to hearing from you.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
The wife who has been cheated on by her political husband and stood by him through the scandal, is being pursued by her boss who has known her since college. She has feelings for him but she is a honorable and loyal wife. Her husband and her have been sleeping in separate beds. The husband went and saw her in action as a high powered lawyer last night and really got fired up for her. When she got home he initiated contact with her and she responded by telling him she had to study. He continued his advances, she continued to resist. He finally pressed her against a wall and let her know she did not have to do a thing he got this. His head disappeared and her face relaxed.
I ask my husband when I come in and he says I am on a rampage about something wrong in the house does he think this would work for us? After he got through laughing, his answer was yes but knowing me after he was done I would go back to what ever I was ranting and raving about.
Wow, I thought he knew that this kind of submission on his part would lend itself to a different kind of submission on my part. I know the things that where upsetting me when I came in would still be their but I would handle them with less tension.
I had a discussion with a couple I know about a movie the wife and I love, you might have heard of it, Something New. Her husband always contends we should not be watching stuff like that because we want our men to do what the man in this movie did, paint her toes etc.
So do guys never watch things on TV or Movies and want their wives to do any of it? Or do they just not share they would like for some of the things to be done? We women are really open about that kind of stuff. Once again communication is the key. What do you think? I look forward to hearing from you.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Masturbation Is It a Sin or Not?
Sin, small word big impact on peoples lives. I recently had a conversation with several people in different circumstances and thought to myself, interpretation of anything connected with the word Sin attached to it is like a keg of dynamite.
In one group masturbation of any kind was strictly forbidden. One major reason sited was the mind and sight elements that accompany the act. The person allows pornographic images to enter and thus makes it a Sin.
A male minister explained it by saying yes he believed the above mentioned and councils the young men he knows that God will convict them of any wrong doing on their part when the time is right. He tells married folks that in the act of a husband or wife being totally involved with their expression of love making it is up to them what each has submitted to do for and with the other.
Several young men thought it is better to do masturbation than take the chance of getting a girl pregnant or contracting a STI or STD. They planned on remaining virgins until marriage.
A fertility clinic specialist gives men magazines and a cup and points them to a room to collect the specimen. What magazines I ask? This particular clinic gives, Home Journal, Cosmopolitan, Oprah's O, and last but not lest People. They never give anything pornographic.
So who is right? The people that say never or those that give a Love or medical reason. Who ever you side with, one thing is sure if you ask 4 people this question in different surroundings you get 4 different answers. Interpretation is everything.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
In one group masturbation of any kind was strictly forbidden. One major reason sited was the mind and sight elements that accompany the act. The person allows pornographic images to enter and thus makes it a Sin.
A male minister explained it by saying yes he believed the above mentioned and councils the young men he knows that God will convict them of any wrong doing on their part when the time is right. He tells married folks that in the act of a husband or wife being totally involved with their expression of love making it is up to them what each has submitted to do for and with the other.
Several young men thought it is better to do masturbation than take the chance of getting a girl pregnant or contracting a STI or STD. They planned on remaining virgins until marriage.
A fertility clinic specialist gives men magazines and a cup and points them to a room to collect the specimen. What magazines I ask? This particular clinic gives, Home Journal, Cosmopolitan, Oprah's O, and last but not lest People. They never give anything pornographic.
So who is right? The people that say never or those that give a Love or medical reason. Who ever you side with, one thing is sure if you ask 4 people this question in different surroundings you get 4 different answers. Interpretation is everything.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Monday, September 27, 2010
What Next?
Those little ovaries of mine are at it again. I had another CT and again they see mass but can not tell exactly what it is. This is sooooo nerve racking. My Doctor, you know the young guy, has summoned me to his office again this week.
I really am so tempted to tell him just go in and take these little trouble makers. They ran blood work and told me even though they are causing such problems their still doing the job of supplying me with hormones. If He takes them out I will head straight into menopause.
What do I do?
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
I really am so tempted to tell him just go in and take these little trouble makers. They ran blood work and told me even though they are causing such problems their still doing the job of supplying me with hormones. If He takes them out I will head straight into menopause.
What do I do?
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Thursday, September 23, 2010
Passion for What
Websters dictionary defines passion as 1any emotion, as hate, love, fear, etc. Wow that just makes it even clearer how people at one point in their relationships can profess such genuine love for their partner and then in no time spew such venomous hate for them. It was curious to me that Webster would choose to put love in between hate and fear. After a year of receiving calls on the hot line at Twilla Talk 706.507.9704 I now understand better why.
I had the privilege of attending a meeting to empower youth in our city. A group is forming to listen to the voice of the child through the child. Not what we think, they want but to really hear them. I went because of my passion for children. After I had a full melt down in the meeting. What I'm saying is my passion spilled out about some things that where going on in the meeting and I found myself in my favorite book I like to use as a reference point for everything. Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth. I mean do you ever hear your voice raising and your heart pounding and your passion that is love turning to the hate or fear counterpart? I did. I was quoting the story about why humans speak so many different languages, to get my point about being unified across. Which is in Genesis chapter eleven of the before mentioned book, when I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes and threatening to overflow. The release would have been welcomed by me but I fear it would have been used against me as a judge of how women can be too emotional instead of calling it passionate. Websters definition for passionate: 1 having or showing strong feelings.
Here's to all of us filled to the brim with passion for our mates. Show up and support whatever it is passionately and with Unity as one. Nothing you as a family decide to do will be restrained.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
I had the privilege of attending a meeting to empower youth in our city. A group is forming to listen to the voice of the child through the child. Not what we think, they want but to really hear them. I went because of my passion for children. After I had a full melt down in the meeting. What I'm saying is my passion spilled out about some things that where going on in the meeting and I found myself in my favorite book I like to use as a reference point for everything. Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth. I mean do you ever hear your voice raising and your heart pounding and your passion that is love turning to the hate or fear counterpart? I did. I was quoting the story about why humans speak so many different languages, to get my point about being unified across. Which is in Genesis chapter eleven of the before mentioned book, when I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes and threatening to overflow. The release would have been welcomed by me but I fear it would have been used against me as a judge of how women can be too emotional instead of calling it passionate. Websters definition for passionate: 1 having or showing strong feelings.
Here's to all of us filled to the brim with passion for our mates. Show up and support whatever it is passionately and with Unity as one. Nothing you as a family decide to do will be restrained.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
When Do We Discuss It
With all that is going on and all that has gone on in the past, when is the right time for the collective body of believers to discuss our sexual health?
My absolute belief is that we start NOW and at every seminar, conference, revival, woman's day program, men's program, church anniversary, usher boards anniversary, pastors appreciation, marriage ministry, singles ministry, youth ministry and any other proposed events where we have speakers, teachers, and instructors.
We need to have open candid discussion on what we the believers need to know about. Some may not agree, but in the right setting I believe young people will learn how to stay abstinence not by just saying don't do it. We all know how well that works, but by being able to ask questions and get honest answers. I think adults can and will open up if they don't feel they are being preached at. Instead asked to engage in meaningful conversation with speakers that allow them to ask questions as well as give answers.
The world we live on is complex and the humans we share it with are all sexual beings our creator saw fit to make us this way so why shouldn't we talk about at least one of the things we all have in common.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
My absolute belief is that we start NOW and at every seminar, conference, revival, woman's day program, men's program, church anniversary, usher boards anniversary, pastors appreciation, marriage ministry, singles ministry, youth ministry and any other proposed events where we have speakers, teachers, and instructors.
We need to have open candid discussion on what we the believers need to know about. Some may not agree, but in the right setting I believe young people will learn how to stay abstinence not by just saying don't do it. We all know how well that works, but by being able to ask questions and get honest answers. I think adults can and will open up if they don't feel they are being preached at. Instead asked to engage in meaningful conversation with speakers that allow them to ask questions as well as give answers.
The world we live on is complex and the humans we share it with are all sexual beings our creator saw fit to make us this way so why shouldn't we talk about at least one of the things we all have in common.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
We are Married why use a Condom
The conversation I just had with a women married all of two days is exactly why I advocate talking about your pass sexual life in detail before marriage.
Her husband informed her on their wedding night he really needed to attend a friends funeral the next day, would she mind if he went? She being sensitive to his needs told him no she wouldn't mind. The next day while he was at the funeral she got a call from a friend asking her why would she allow her husband to go to his ex's funeral, and did she know she had died of complications from AIDS? She told the friend no and waited for her husband to come home. When he got home she confronted him about it and he told her everything was true.
This was the first time they had every discussed pass partners. She asked him to go with her and get tested for HIV. His response was no, I know I don't have it because the girl and I where only together a few times and I am never sick.
She asked me my opinion, I told her sounds like they should be using condoms. If he is not going to be tested, she has to protect herself the best she knows how. If he wont wear a condom then she needs to use a female one.
So many times I speak with singles as well as married people and I have to continuously remind them that if you or your partner have ever had unprotected sex, you have opened the opportunity for any STI or STD to be passed onto your present partner. Think of it like this count all the sexual contacts you have ever had and multiply that by ten, then imagine your mate doing the same and then think about what all those humans could be lying to each other about or in denial.
Everyone in Love enough to want to spend the rest of their life with you. Should be open enough to talk about their sexual past. I think it should be in the first ten things you discuss on a date.
You should practice how you will bring it into the conversation. Practice makes perfect and you wont feel so awkward about it.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Her husband informed her on their wedding night he really needed to attend a friends funeral the next day, would she mind if he went? She being sensitive to his needs told him no she wouldn't mind. The next day while he was at the funeral she got a call from a friend asking her why would she allow her husband to go to his ex's funeral, and did she know she had died of complications from AIDS? She told the friend no and waited for her husband to come home. When he got home she confronted him about it and he told her everything was true.
This was the first time they had every discussed pass partners. She asked him to go with her and get tested for HIV. His response was no, I know I don't have it because the girl and I where only together a few times and I am never sick.
She asked me my opinion, I told her sounds like they should be using condoms. If he is not going to be tested, she has to protect herself the best she knows how. If he wont wear a condom then she needs to use a female one.
So many times I speak with singles as well as married people and I have to continuously remind them that if you or your partner have ever had unprotected sex, you have opened the opportunity for any STI or STD to be passed onto your present partner. Think of it like this count all the sexual contacts you have ever had and multiply that by ten, then imagine your mate doing the same and then think about what all those humans could be lying to each other about or in denial.
Everyone in Love enough to want to spend the rest of their life with you. Should be open enough to talk about their sexual past. I think it should be in the first ten things you discuss on a date.
You should practice how you will bring it into the conversation. Practice makes perfect and you wont feel so awkward about it.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Monday, September 20, 2010
What Is A Revirgin?
I had a great time this weekend at a event put on by The Columbus Jazz Society and hosted by K92s very own deep sultry sexy voice Kris Green. The event was short but sweet. I was the only one this time that thought tailgating would be the way to get the best seat in the house and I was right. I got to talk to all the people passing and at the end I had no clean up.
While waiting for all the traffic to clear I spotted a old friend I had not seen in at least 3 years. She introduced me to some new ladies and they proceeded to tell me how shallow the dating pool is. They all went on to say they have reclaimed their virginity. What you say reclaimed, how is that possible?
I was told if you do not have sex for 7 years the new rule is you get to call yourself a virgin again. Stop the presses let me check with a physician, well my doctor did not call back fast enough so next best thing google it. So this is what I found.
Years ago in Japan a women went through a procedure that reattached the hood over her hymen, it was successful but no doctors recommend it. Their is no time frame used for calculating reclamation. However there are rules, you have to write a statement saying you promise to wait until marriage for intercourse, and then you can download a pledge card to carry with you as a reminder. All of the sites I found, where targeting teens. Not a one even addressed anyone living in a town they considered having a shortage of properly vetted males.
I think the ladies I spoke with might not want to sign those agreements. If the right man came along I'm thinking that card would be the first thing in the shredder. Sad to say even older women feel the pressure to give up their reclaimed virginity when it comes right down to it.
I left them with a thought I often tell single women to lighten their spirits. A wise women in a book of wisdom listened to a wiser older women and went about her business of gleaning in the fields, bending and gleaning, I like to think of it as The Bend and Snap of old. A man named Boaz saw her and you can read the rest of the story in The Book of Ruth located in Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth. Don't forget ladies, Glean, Bend and Snap your Boaz will find you and he will wait until marriage because your worth the wait.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
While waiting for all the traffic to clear I spotted a old friend I had not seen in at least 3 years. She introduced me to some new ladies and they proceeded to tell me how shallow the dating pool is. They all went on to say they have reclaimed their virginity. What you say reclaimed, how is that possible?
I was told if you do not have sex for 7 years the new rule is you get to call yourself a virgin again. Stop the presses let me check with a physician, well my doctor did not call back fast enough so next best thing google it. So this is what I found.
Years ago in Japan a women went through a procedure that reattached the hood over her hymen, it was successful but no doctors recommend it. Their is no time frame used for calculating reclamation. However there are rules, you have to write a statement saying you promise to wait until marriage for intercourse, and then you can download a pledge card to carry with you as a reminder. All of the sites I found, where targeting teens. Not a one even addressed anyone living in a town they considered having a shortage of properly vetted males.
I think the ladies I spoke with might not want to sign those agreements. If the right man came along I'm thinking that card would be the first thing in the shredder. Sad to say even older women feel the pressure to give up their reclaimed virginity when it comes right down to it.
I left them with a thought I often tell single women to lighten their spirits. A wise women in a book of wisdom listened to a wiser older women and went about her business of gleaning in the fields, bending and gleaning, I like to think of it as The Bend and Snap of old. A man named Boaz saw her and you can read the rest of the story in The Book of Ruth located in Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth. Don't forget ladies, Glean, Bend and Snap your Boaz will find you and he will wait until marriage because your worth the wait.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Thursday, September 16, 2010
God Invented Sex
There is a popular song out, the guy says you gone think I invented sex. No matter what he thinks I assure you he did not. He might have come across some really interesting ways to experience sex but I am convinced The Great I AM is the original creator.
A middle age lady made a statement to me how could I talk about that secular stuff you a christian right. It kind of caught me off guard, I had to think what in the world is she talking about. She saw my puzzled look and added you know sex and things about sex. I stirred up the most surprising look I could and told her, Oh My God this whole time I was under the impression it was God that invented Sex. She was silent and had the look you can only get when a light has been turned on for you as you stand searching for something in the dark. As her mind became more aware of her new enlightenment she said"Baby you keep talking about sex you are correct". She patted me on the arm and walk away with the look of a child with a new toy.
I wonder how long had she felt that Sex was something dirty and not commissioned by Our Creator. Maybe some type of abuse happened when she was young or maybe some religious teaching not biblical was at play. Whatever it was I hope to someday meet her again and find out more.
There are lots of people, I am sure that may be thinking the same thing. Please know this the Song of Solomon is a wonderful book located in the Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth that is a great demonstration of the love and intimacy that two humans can express to one another.
I know every time I read it I'm brought to tears and then I'm running into my husbands arms.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
A middle age lady made a statement to me how could I talk about that secular stuff you a christian right. It kind of caught me off guard, I had to think what in the world is she talking about. She saw my puzzled look and added you know sex and things about sex. I stirred up the most surprising look I could and told her, Oh My God this whole time I was under the impression it was God that invented Sex. She was silent and had the look you can only get when a light has been turned on for you as you stand searching for something in the dark. As her mind became more aware of her new enlightenment she said"Baby you keep talking about sex you are correct". She patted me on the arm and walk away with the look of a child with a new toy.
I wonder how long had she felt that Sex was something dirty and not commissioned by Our Creator. Maybe some type of abuse happened when she was young or maybe some religious teaching not biblical was at play. Whatever it was I hope to someday meet her again and find out more.
There are lots of people, I am sure that may be thinking the same thing. Please know this the Song of Solomon is a wonderful book located in the Basic Instructions Before Leaving Earth that is a great demonstration of the love and intimacy that two humans can express to one another.
I know every time I read it I'm brought to tears and then I'm running into my husbands arms.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Just Say Yes
OK ladies I try to be very understanding about all the extra SUPER WOMAN stuff we need to do. But there comes a time or several times a day that you just gotta say YES to your Man.
We all know the old saying, what you want do another will. I'm saying it's not even all that. No you should not be worried about your man stepping out on you. The commitment to your spouse should far exceed what ever you have not worked out.
With that being said. You have got to start saying YES more than No to him. I say make him say, honey can I have a break from sex. I know you think right he will never say that. Trust me you put it on him as often and more than he ask and he will ask for a break and might even tell you he gets the point about having other things to do. Then you have won him over to the more sensible time table that you both can agree to.
So game on, since football season has started this is the opportune time to put this plan into action. let me know how long it takes to make him say enough dear.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
We all know the old saying, what you want do another will. I'm saying it's not even all that. No you should not be worried about your man stepping out on you. The commitment to your spouse should far exceed what ever you have not worked out.
With that being said. You have got to start saying YES more than No to him. I say make him say, honey can I have a break from sex. I know you think right he will never say that. Trust me you put it on him as often and more than he ask and he will ask for a break and might even tell you he gets the point about having other things to do. Then you have won him over to the more sensible time table that you both can agree to.
So game on, since football season has started this is the opportune time to put this plan into action. let me know how long it takes to make him say enough dear.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Monday, September 13, 2010
Extra Bodies in your Bed
So you get all washed and smelling good and well rested.Looked at a few positions in your bedside Kama Sudra Manuel, stretched a few limbs and waited for your mate to make their grand entrance and climb into your waiting arms. The door swings open and a giggling, screaming, child comes running through the door to announce daddy said "I can sleep with you tonight". All you can do is lay there in total disbelieve.
It took a year and some to get this little person out of your bed, at his request and now he lets the intruder back in. What is a women to think.
The Women I had this conversation with was absolutely dumb founded. This scenario continued for months and she finally got feed up and ask her husband what was going on. He told her she had lost too much weight and it was like making love to a bone. Every time they would try new positions he could feel her pelvic bones and felt like he would break it. She did not know what to say or do. Gain weight to get her sex life back or keep the weight off to feel better and be healthier.
Wow for once in my life time I was almost speechless, but you know that did not last long. I asked did she talk with her husband about the weight loss plan. She indicated he should have known that it was not good for her to be over weight. She just started working out and eating better. She continued to feed him what they always ate.
Once again I say communication is they key we should never take for granted what another person is thinking even if you do eat, sleep and live in the same house. No quick fixes for marital discord, but one sure way not to have allot of it is communication.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
It took a year and some to get this little person out of your bed, at his request and now he lets the intruder back in. What is a women to think.
The Women I had this conversation with was absolutely dumb founded. This scenario continued for months and she finally got feed up and ask her husband what was going on. He told her she had lost too much weight and it was like making love to a bone. Every time they would try new positions he could feel her pelvic bones and felt like he would break it. She did not know what to say or do. Gain weight to get her sex life back or keep the weight off to feel better and be healthier.
Wow for once in my life time I was almost speechless, but you know that did not last long. I asked did she talk with her husband about the weight loss plan. She indicated he should have known that it was not good for her to be over weight. She just started working out and eating better. She continued to feed him what they always ate.
Once again I say communication is they key we should never take for granted what another person is thinking even if you do eat, sleep and live in the same house. No quick fixes for marital discord, but one sure way not to have allot of it is communication.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Friday, September 10, 2010
Call me Leopard not Cougar
I spoke with a associate yesterday u might know him, Toney Harris of For Lovers Only on Sunday night Foxy 104.9, 10pm-3pm. You owe me a shout out brother. OK I was saying, we talked briefly about him being attracted to older women. Then he said that name Cougar.
I looked up the word and Webster gave the definitions as a large, powerful, tawny wild cat. I don't know about the rest of you ladies but If I did like younger men. I would rather be called a leopard. Definition, any of various large ferocious cats, including the jaguar.
I mean what Women do you know only has one side to her. The reason smart young men seek us out is because of our ability to multi task. You know, I can bring home the meat, cook it up in a pan and never ever let you forget your the man. Cougar seems to be the name I would have called myself early on in life, one dimensional in my mindset. Now, I along with most of the Women I know are and can be called several things to several people.
As for Mr. Harris saying he could handle maybe two right about now, well I say one women to one man is how the creator intended it to be or he would have taken more than one of your ribs, and I think that is how you should proceed. But you know what the nick name is for the guys that do that and I cant think of a better one, Dog, Webster's definition, a mean contemptible fellow, an unattractive person or unsatisfactory thing.
Nicknames are a powerful thing maybe we should think long and hard before we give someone a name that might just stick with them the rest of their lives.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
I looked up the word and Webster gave the definitions as a large, powerful, tawny wild cat. I don't know about the rest of you ladies but If I did like younger men. I would rather be called a leopard. Definition, any of various large ferocious cats, including the jaguar.
I mean what Women do you know only has one side to her. The reason smart young men seek us out is because of our ability to multi task. You know, I can bring home the meat, cook it up in a pan and never ever let you forget your the man. Cougar seems to be the name I would have called myself early on in life, one dimensional in my mindset. Now, I along with most of the Women I know are and can be called several things to several people.
As for Mr. Harris saying he could handle maybe two right about now, well I say one women to one man is how the creator intended it to be or he would have taken more than one of your ribs, and I think that is how you should proceed. But you know what the nick name is for the guys that do that and I cant think of a better one, Dog, Webster's definition, a mean contemptible fellow, an unattractive person or unsatisfactory thing.
Nicknames are a powerful thing maybe we should think long and hard before we give someone a name that might just stick with them the rest of their lives.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Negotiating my Passion
My all time favorite thing to do is dance. Often when I was young and it was a kinder gentler place on earth. My grandmother would take me dancing on a Friday and Saturday night. You know the booty shaking, hip roaring, hand slapping kine you heard talk about in the south, at what we called juke joint or hole in the wall. That's a whole other story.
Since those days I have practiced ballet, jazz, modern, the list could go on. What really has me in a pickle is I want to enjoy some form of dancing with my husband and he has about as much rhythm as Steve Martin in the Jerk. He really doesn't have a passion for it like I do. Before you think it let me say, yes I knew he didn't have rhythm when we met. I'm not trying to change who he is. I just wont to enjoy his company. Doing something I want to do.
We have been enjoying some of the seasons of Dancing With the Stars. No I did not drug him and tie him to the chair. He really liked critiquing the dancers. I asked him if he would consider Ball Room dancing he hesitated and said "Maybe." That is my opening. I am going to work this like a jockey riding a horse. I will let you know at a later date how the negotiations turn out.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Since those days I have practiced ballet, jazz, modern, the list could go on. What really has me in a pickle is I want to enjoy some form of dancing with my husband and he has about as much rhythm as Steve Martin in the Jerk. He really doesn't have a passion for it like I do. Before you think it let me say, yes I knew he didn't have rhythm when we met. I'm not trying to change who he is. I just wont to enjoy his company. Doing something I want to do.
We have been enjoying some of the seasons of Dancing With the Stars. No I did not drug him and tie him to the chair. He really liked critiquing the dancers. I asked him if he would consider Ball Room dancing he hesitated and said "Maybe." That is my opening. I am going to work this like a jockey riding a horse. I will let you know at a later date how the negotiations turn out.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
My Dreams of Sex
I recently had a caller that was very upset about her dreams of sexual activity being so real. She would wake up with sore muscles and vaginally wet.
You know me I first asked did she check with her Husband. She said "He works at night". I asked is he the one in the dream? She said "Sometimes but most of the time it is someone she knows at work, church or even another parent at her children's soccer games". She began to cry and tell me she loves her Husband very much and would never do anything to jeopardise their marriage.
Getting people to talk about deeper issues is sometimes tricky, but I have to at least try so the next few questions kind of caught her off guard but she answered.
Q. Is your marriage sex starved?
A. A little.
Q. Is your marriage in other crises?
A. No.
Q. Are you and your mate having money difficulties?
A. No.
Q. Do the other men in the dreams resemble your husband?
A. Same complexion but not same built.
I'm not a doctor and this is just my opinion as always you should seek a physician for any and all medical concerns.
Now that I have taken care of that disclaimer. I addressed the issue of what a little meant to her, when I asked about sex starved. She said "Because he works at night and her at day it became difficult for them to have as much sex as they had in the past. They do try to make it a priority on the days they are both off or vacations.
I told her sounded like her subconscious is filling in the blanks with people that she is spending more time with than her husband all though she clearly wishes it was him instead she is at work more, at soccer more and probably even at church more than she is with her husband. She thought about it and then agreed, that is the case most days.
Here's a question? Are we super women doing too much, I know I am not the first to ask but really should we try to slow down and do less to receive more.
The last thing I asked her is does she know what a Incubus is. She said "No". I told her the Webster dictionary explains it as 1. a nightmare 2. an oppressive burden. I told her I think both of those fit what she explained. It is a nightmare for her to go through such gratifying sexual encounters in her sleep and quite a burden to her mind that the men howbeit the same complexion, are not her husband.
She came to her on conclusion of asking her husband to seek a day position and maybe cutting back on some of her extra stuff as she put it.
It is always good for people to talk it out and then make their own game plan they have a better chance of success.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
You know me I first asked did she check with her Husband. She said "He works at night". I asked is he the one in the dream? She said "Sometimes but most of the time it is someone she knows at work, church or even another parent at her children's soccer games". She began to cry and tell me she loves her Husband very much and would never do anything to jeopardise their marriage.
Getting people to talk about deeper issues is sometimes tricky, but I have to at least try so the next few questions kind of caught her off guard but she answered.
Q. Is your marriage sex starved?
A. A little.
Q. Is your marriage in other crises?
A. No.
Q. Are you and your mate having money difficulties?
A. No.
Q. Do the other men in the dreams resemble your husband?
A. Same complexion but not same built.
I'm not a doctor and this is just my opinion as always you should seek a physician for any and all medical concerns.
Now that I have taken care of that disclaimer. I addressed the issue of what a little meant to her, when I asked about sex starved. She said "Because he works at night and her at day it became difficult for them to have as much sex as they had in the past. They do try to make it a priority on the days they are both off or vacations.
I told her sounded like her subconscious is filling in the blanks with people that she is spending more time with than her husband all though she clearly wishes it was him instead she is at work more, at soccer more and probably even at church more than she is with her husband. She thought about it and then agreed, that is the case most days.
Here's a question? Are we super women doing too much, I know I am not the first to ask but really should we try to slow down and do less to receive more.
The last thing I asked her is does she know what a Incubus is. She said "No". I told her the Webster dictionary explains it as 1. a nightmare 2. an oppressive burden. I told her I think both of those fit what she explained. It is a nightmare for her to go through such gratifying sexual encounters in her sleep and quite a burden to her mind that the men howbeit the same complexion, are not her husband.
She came to her on conclusion of asking her husband to seek a day position and maybe cutting back on some of her extra stuff as she put it.
It is always good for people to talk it out and then make their own game plan they have a better chance of success.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Monday, September 6, 2010
How Old is to Old?
To Old for what you ask?
A question was ask of me, or maybe I should say my opinion was solicited. If my mate is now using a walker and has a bed side potty, should I bother them about sex anymore?
I must say just picturing that mate in my minds eye was difficult to say the lest. I could only see a feeble old person trying to engage in activities that once might have been considered a gymnastical (I think I made up a word) display of strength and endurance. A question then came to me.
Is the person in question elderly or did they have a accident? Because if it was a accident maybe this is not a permanent condition and they have some rehabilitation to do. Then the mate can resume all the fun activities that come with intercourse. On the other hand if they are elderly maybe different approaches to intimacy should be explored.
The person let me know it was age not accident. I gave some suggestions about exploring the Venus way of making love to the partner or at least that's what they call it now. Lots of time spent touching and caressing each other, washing each others hair, giving a massage, the list can go on and on but no actual penetration.
I got a none responsive look, and then the person said"That sounds like a night of frustration for both of us". I was under the assumption (We all know what that does) the person wanted intimacy with their mate. Maybe because I was not really listening in the beginning when they said the word SEX instead of INTIMACY.
In that case I think the real question becomes and always was about the partner that has the issue of experiencing the onset of ageing.
Maybe it's time to have a very honest discussion with all of our spouses. What do they think too old is for Sex?
Love Ya, See Ya, Bye
Twilla
A question was ask of me, or maybe I should say my opinion was solicited. If my mate is now using a walker and has a bed side potty, should I bother them about sex anymore?
I must say just picturing that mate in my minds eye was difficult to say the lest. I could only see a feeble old person trying to engage in activities that once might have been considered a gymnastical (I think I made up a word) display of strength and endurance. A question then came to me.
Is the person in question elderly or did they have a accident? Because if it was a accident maybe this is not a permanent condition and they have some rehabilitation to do. Then the mate can resume all the fun activities that come with intercourse. On the other hand if they are elderly maybe different approaches to intimacy should be explored.
The person let me know it was age not accident. I gave some suggestions about exploring the Venus way of making love to the partner or at least that's what they call it now. Lots of time spent touching and caressing each other, washing each others hair, giving a massage, the list can go on and on but no actual penetration.
I got a none responsive look, and then the person said"That sounds like a night of frustration for both of us". I was under the assumption (We all know what that does) the person wanted intimacy with their mate. Maybe because I was not really listening in the beginning when they said the word SEX instead of INTIMACY.
In that case I think the real question becomes and always was about the partner that has the issue of experiencing the onset of ageing.
Maybe it's time to have a very honest discussion with all of our spouses. What do they think too old is for Sex?
Love Ya, See Ya, Bye
Twilla
Friday, September 3, 2010
Vagina's come in all sizes
For the past two weeks, I have had a persistent caller to the Twilla Talk hot line, 706.507.9704. A young man, that is in despair about the size of his penis.
He has been comparing his size to others in the school locker room, looking at the imprint of others in public and finally asking his father about his size. None of the before mentioned activities have given this senior in high school a piece of mind.
He told me He is worried that he wont be able to please the ladies. According to his buddies he is wayyyyy tooooo small. He measured and without an erection he is two inches. He is 5'7 and 187 pounds.
First things first, I told him never go totally on what the guys in the locker room are saying. They don't know squat. Then he should not compare himself to anyone when it comes to anything physical, we are all uniquely and wonderfully made.
Then I addressed what really concerns me about what our young men still believe and that is he used ladies instead of some day my wife. Our youth are not in the frame of mind to keep their virginity until they marry. They are in the locker rooms comparing and sizing each other up to see how many sexual encounters they will have. OK enough of the soap box, not really, just another blog.
After several discussions with this young man I finally had to let him in on what seem to be a secret to him and his buddies. Vagina's are not one size fits all, with that said. We will discuss it further in the next blog.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
He has been comparing his size to others in the school locker room, looking at the imprint of others in public and finally asking his father about his size. None of the before mentioned activities have given this senior in high school a piece of mind.
He told me He is worried that he wont be able to please the ladies. According to his buddies he is wayyyyy tooooo small. He measured and without an erection he is two inches. He is 5'7 and 187 pounds.
First things first, I told him never go totally on what the guys in the locker room are saying. They don't know squat. Then he should not compare himself to anyone when it comes to anything physical, we are all uniquely and wonderfully made.
Then I addressed what really concerns me about what our young men still believe and that is he used ladies instead of some day my wife. Our youth are not in the frame of mind to keep their virginity until they marry. They are in the locker rooms comparing and sizing each other up to see how many sexual encounters they will have. OK enough of the soap box, not really, just another blog.
After several discussions with this young man I finally had to let him in on what seem to be a secret to him and his buddies. Vagina's are not one size fits all, with that said. We will discuss it further in the next blog.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Thursday, September 2, 2010
Saints, Sinners, and Swings
Long before I started Twilla Talk, I had a conversation with someone about the SWING they saw in a movie. I didn't ask them what kind of movie it was because my mind automatically went to it was probably X rated.
I was not real sure what kind of belief system this person operated under but looking at their chosen life style I would not have called them a SAINT. I will expound on that further down.
The swing was hung on a door and the women had both legs through loops and held onto the straps connected to the door. While the male stood in front of her at just the right height to perform the act of intercourse.
I am the redeemed of the Lord and filled with The Holy Spirit, and the first thing that came to my mind is what SINNERS these people must be to indulge in such a act and then their was the person that was telling me about it.
Then I was thrown a curve ball. For those of you that don't know what a curve ball is. It starts out coming strait for you and you just know exactly what to do then wright before it gets to you it curves to the left or right and you have usually already started to swing. I had already made up my mind to drag this person to church any way I could before they bust hell wide open. Then I was told, they meaning husband and wife needed help because she had gained weight over the years and he now had some back troubles. It was difficult for them to fully enjoy the act of making LOVE without one of them being in allot of discomfort. They saw the SWING advertised on line as a tool to help relieve the stress of back pain while enjoying sex.
I was guilty of judging before I had the whole picture. Here I was making assumptions about how they saw such a thing as a SWING. I not having enough info decided to investigate for myself and found a even better SWING for them. It holds more weight and is secured in a I beam in the ceiling. It can be taken down after use and the hook covered with a small piece of cloth if they like. You can stay in the comfort of your bed and not have to stand on the floor.
Now when I speak with other couples that are facing the exact or similar situations I am able to pass on some knowledge and understanding about more ways to continue physically expressing their love for each other.
A wise author once wrote: My people are destroyed for the lack of knowledge.
Don't let your marriages be destroyed because you refuse knowledge of new witty inventions that could help. By the way this author can be found in The BasicInstructionsBeforeLeavingEarth,
Hosea 4;6.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
I was not real sure what kind of belief system this person operated under but looking at their chosen life style I would not have called them a SAINT. I will expound on that further down.
The swing was hung on a door and the women had both legs through loops and held onto the straps connected to the door. While the male stood in front of her at just the right height to perform the act of intercourse.
I am the redeemed of the Lord and filled with The Holy Spirit, and the first thing that came to my mind is what SINNERS these people must be to indulge in such a act and then their was the person that was telling me about it.
Then I was thrown a curve ball. For those of you that don't know what a curve ball is. It starts out coming strait for you and you just know exactly what to do then wright before it gets to you it curves to the left or right and you have usually already started to swing. I had already made up my mind to drag this person to church any way I could before they bust hell wide open. Then I was told, they meaning husband and wife needed help because she had gained weight over the years and he now had some back troubles. It was difficult for them to fully enjoy the act of making LOVE without one of them being in allot of discomfort. They saw the SWING advertised on line as a tool to help relieve the stress of back pain while enjoying sex.
I was guilty of judging before I had the whole picture. Here I was making assumptions about how they saw such a thing as a SWING. I not having enough info decided to investigate for myself and found a even better SWING for them. It holds more weight and is secured in a I beam in the ceiling. It can be taken down after use and the hook covered with a small piece of cloth if they like. You can stay in the comfort of your bed and not have to stand on the floor.
Now when I speak with other couples that are facing the exact or similar situations I am able to pass on some knowledge and understanding about more ways to continue physically expressing their love for each other.
A wise author once wrote: My people are destroyed for the lack of knowledge.
Don't let your marriages be destroyed because you refuse knowledge of new witty inventions that could help. By the way this author can be found in The BasicInstructionsBeforeLeavingEarth,
Hosea 4;6.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
Morning Sex
Recently I was told that I am making it hard, no pun intended, for females to get away with not having morning sex.
I don't understand what is so difficult about giving it up. Someone said " Because I gotta get the kids ready then myself ready not enough time." To that I say tell him baby we gotta get it in before the crack of dawn or at least before the crack of the kids eye lids. I bet he will be up at 4:00am for that. Some said "I just don't feel like it." Well do you feel like doing everything you do in a day. I sure don't. So sometimes just go with the flow you might feel like it before it's over. That one of course raised some concern with about the length of time it takes to do it. Come on ladies you know we can do a quick as well as the guys. I mean you know and if you don't I am here to tell you its OK for a wham bam thank you mam or sir depending on who the speedy Gonzalez is that morning. Some said"I don't have the energy". Well go get a check up maybe you need some vitamins or could be something else wrong. Then they said"Why something gotta be wrong? Well maybe it's just me but my husband still does it for me after 28 years and if the day comes that I cant find the energy to indulge in such a beautiful thing as morning sex. I will be checking with the doctor or looking at my schedule to see if I am doing too many other less important things, that might be burning me out.
I know I will have those that will disagree with all I have just said or maybe you have something to add. Feel free to write me. Make sure you push the follow me button.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
I don't understand what is so difficult about giving it up. Someone said " Because I gotta get the kids ready then myself ready not enough time." To that I say tell him baby we gotta get it in before the crack of dawn or at least before the crack of the kids eye lids. I bet he will be up at 4:00am for that. Some said "I just don't feel like it." Well do you feel like doing everything you do in a day. I sure don't. So sometimes just go with the flow you might feel like it before it's over. That one of course raised some concern with about the length of time it takes to do it. Come on ladies you know we can do a quick as well as the guys. I mean you know and if you don't I am here to tell you its OK for a wham bam thank you mam or sir depending on who the speedy Gonzalez is that morning. Some said"I don't have the energy". Well go get a check up maybe you need some vitamins or could be something else wrong. Then they said"Why something gotta be wrong? Well maybe it's just me but my husband still does it for me after 28 years and if the day comes that I cant find the energy to indulge in such a beautiful thing as morning sex. I will be checking with the doctor or looking at my schedule to see if I am doing too many other less important things, that might be burning me out.
I know I will have those that will disagree with all I have just said or maybe you have something to add. Feel free to write me. Make sure you push the follow me button.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Monday, August 2, 2010
Aerobic Orgasm is not Masturbation
Hello all, I had a great time this weekend. I picked my sister and her family up from the Atlanta airport. While I was there a really nice looking man showered me with lots of compliments from my head to my toes literal. Wow, I wait to get 48 years old to be drop dead gorgeous who knew. Or he could have been a serial killer looking for his next victim. I'm gonna go with he saw a goddess and had to speak to me. My brother in law said I had on grown women shoes his way of saying they where cute and I looked all grown up. No doubt about it I must be entering my prime lol.
I went to a Divine Expressions Event Saturday and really enjoyed myself. Once people find out what I do or realize where they saw me I get to hear questions wither I am on program or not. I love that I get to help hurting people, it makes all of the scrutiny worth it.
Question 1.
They had been celibate for 15 years and heard that sex was great for your health, but masturbation was out of the question because of religious beliefs.
Suggestions.
I told her yes they do say that. She could achieve a orgasm by other means like aerobic exercise. She could also get great benefits from doing the kegal exercise, it would help strengthen her bladder and stimulate vaginal wall not to mention tighten the floor of her vagina. So she doesn't have to loose tone in that special place and it feels good.
Question 2.
My libido is at 0 my husband and I are at the verge of divorce, we use to make love like rabbits. Do have a quick fix.
Suggestion.
Never a quick fix how long has this been going on, she said" 6 years since my daughter was born". I said "1st have u been checked by your doctor could be something physical". Her answer Yes, she got a clean bill of health. My suggestion split the duties of getting your daughter to bed at night and what ever he decides to do on that list don't feel it with other duties use the time to unwind and get ready to enjoy your husband. Not gonna happen over night but i think its worth a try.
If you guys got any suggestions let us know.
Love Ya, See Ya, Bye
Twilla
I went to a Divine Expressions Event Saturday and really enjoyed myself. Once people find out what I do or realize where they saw me I get to hear questions wither I am on program or not. I love that I get to help hurting people, it makes all of the scrutiny worth it.
Question 1.
They had been celibate for 15 years and heard that sex was great for your health, but masturbation was out of the question because of religious beliefs.
Suggestions.
I told her yes they do say that. She could achieve a orgasm by other means like aerobic exercise. She could also get great benefits from doing the kegal exercise, it would help strengthen her bladder and stimulate vaginal wall not to mention tighten the floor of her vagina. So she doesn't have to loose tone in that special place and it feels good.
Question 2.
My libido is at 0 my husband and I are at the verge of divorce, we use to make love like rabbits. Do have a quick fix.
Suggestion.
Never a quick fix how long has this been going on, she said" 6 years since my daughter was born". I said "1st have u been checked by your doctor could be something physical". Her answer Yes, she got a clean bill of health. My suggestion split the duties of getting your daughter to bed at night and what ever he decides to do on that list don't feel it with other duties use the time to unwind and get ready to enjoy your husband. Not gonna happen over night but i think its worth a try.
If you guys got any suggestions let us know.
Love Ya, See Ya, Bye
Twilla
Friday, July 30, 2010
The Cancer Doctor
Well I finally saw the Gyn/Oncologist. He has a very good bedside manner. He spoke to me in clear understandable terms. All those test and once again as I've said before it still comes down to hands on examinations. He did a pelvic exam and rectal as well and He said in his best judgement he did not believe I have cancerous growths. With that being said he still had to address those bad reports so he suggested I re-take the CT Scan in 4-6 wk. As for my pain He thinks it could be related to the diverticulitis I sometimes have issues with so he suggested I go to a gastroenterology. He explained to me that the polyps could have entangled my ovary.
My CA-125 was only slightly elevated. The New Dr. you know the young I didn't want made me a appointment right away to see a gastric Dr. and he gave me a personal call. I sure hope He stays that personal for the duration of his practice which I think will be long and prosperous.
On a side note I will be meat free for the month of August I am trying to do every other month until I can be meat free forever. Well made eggs. I think that would make me a octo/lacto vegetarian.
Love Ya, See Ya, Bye
Twilla
My CA-125 was only slightly elevated. The New Dr. you know the young I didn't want made me a appointment right away to see a gastric Dr. and he gave me a personal call. I sure hope He stays that personal for the duration of his practice which I think will be long and prosperous.
On a side note I will be meat free for the month of August I am trying to do every other month until I can be meat free forever. Well made eggs. I think that would make me a octo/lacto vegetarian.
Love Ya, See Ya, Bye
Twilla
Thursday, July 29, 2010
The Dr. I did'nt want to see
OK, you guys know I was really upset with my family practice Dr. 1st about how he talk to me 2nd about sending me to the new kid on the block.
Well I really had to do some serious praying and then I still tried to change the Dr. but couldn't. Goes to show you when we have our minds made up about something wither God tells us no leave it or not we still try to have our way. Maybe at that time I needed the training collar I use for my puppy. He gets a little zap if he is being stubborn about a command.
Well I went to the appointment and guess what he was great he was understanding even after I told him I had reservations about coming to him. He did my exam and then referred me to the Dr. I had talked about with my other Dr. He said it was protocol for me to 1st see a regular OB/GYN then be sent to a specialist. I can only imagine the look on Gods face as I realized how tantrum like I had been.
My advice stay informed about your body but trust the doctors you have chosen to give you good sound advice.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Well I really had to do some serious praying and then I still tried to change the Dr. but couldn't. Goes to show you when we have our minds made up about something wither God tells us no leave it or not we still try to have our way. Maybe at that time I needed the training collar I use for my puppy. He gets a little zap if he is being stubborn about a command.
Well I went to the appointment and guess what he was great he was understanding even after I told him I had reservations about coming to him. He did my exam and then referred me to the Dr. I had talked about with my other Dr. He said it was protocol for me to 1st see a regular OB/GYN then be sent to a specialist. I can only imagine the look on Gods face as I realized how tantrum like I had been.
My advice stay informed about your body but trust the doctors you have chosen to give you good sound advice.
Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla
Friday, July 23, 2010
Pain Pill Day
I lost my day. I took the pain pills the doctor prescribed Vicoden and totally lost today. I mean I went through the motion of the day but it was a bluer till about a hour ago.
I learnt I would not be very productive stuck on medication all day. Some people have said they can take this medicine and go on with the day as if noting was wrong. As a matter of fact they said they felt euphoric. I absolutely do not fall in that category. My head hurt I felt out of control of my thoughts I really just dislike the way it makes me feel.
The upside is I did spend time with my soon to be daughter in law, for now shes my executive asst. It amazes me how people can come into your life and it's like they have been a part of your family all their life.
OK I'm dizzy again did I say this stuff is time released just when I think it's over here we go again. Man I don't see how drug addicts do it.
Love ya See ya Bye
Twilla
I learnt I would not be very productive stuck on medication all day. Some people have said they can take this medicine and go on with the day as if noting was wrong. As a matter of fact they said they felt euphoric. I absolutely do not fall in that category. My head hurt I felt out of control of my thoughts I really just dislike the way it makes me feel.
The upside is I did spend time with my soon to be daughter in law, for now shes my executive asst. It amazes me how people can come into your life and it's like they have been a part of your family all their life.
OK I'm dizzy again did I say this stuff is time released just when I think it's over here we go again. Man I don't see how drug addicts do it.
Love ya See ya Bye
Twilla
Wednesday, July 21, 2010
Here I Grow Again
Wow, I finally made it back. I know you say where have you been? What happened to ya? Well what can I say, except life happens. Anyway I'm so glad to be sharing with you again. Rather than try to catch you up, I'll just start from know.
I will have to add another topic on my I'm a survivor list. I just do not know what it will say yet the finale say from the doctors is not in. It might say I survived ovarian cancer or it could say I survived ovarian cancer scare. Either one will be great.
I'm telling you this is by far the hardest test yet of my faith in God. I mean with all the modern advances of science these days and they still can not tell you what it is until they go in and do what I like to call a lookie lu. Of course they have a name for it laproscopy I guess I spelled that right.
I told my producer I'm going to take my camera to every appointment that allows me from now on just so anyone that might need some strength from my experience might get it. I wish I would have had it when I got the results from the CT scan and it read in the first paragraph they saw a grossly normal uterus. I haven't had one of those in 20 years. I had a hysterectomy they removed my uterus and cervix at least that's what they told me. I guess I should have ask to see the old parts you know like when they fix your car.
I should have had it when my husband and I went to the first doctor appointment and I thought it was a tag team wrestling match with my husband and my family practice doctor agreeing on everything from me not using the Internet to find out more to the last commit of do not get all dramatic about this. Wow I am pretty sure that is the last time I will be in that doctor's office again . He always had a pretty bad bed side manner but this time I just can not take it. I left feeling betrayed by my uninformed husband and compassion lest doctor.
I'm waiting to see a gynecologist next. I will enter his doors with the same fervor and zest for knowledge as I always do and I hope to be received well and appreciated for taking a active roll in my health.
I will just say I believe my husband now understands my need to learn as much as I can about what is being said about my body at least I think he does one can only hope.
Love ya, See ya, Bye
Twilla
I will have to add another topic on my I'm a survivor list. I just do not know what it will say yet the finale say from the doctors is not in. It might say I survived ovarian cancer or it could say I survived ovarian cancer scare. Either one will be great.
I'm telling you this is by far the hardest test yet of my faith in God. I mean with all the modern advances of science these days and they still can not tell you what it is until they go in and do what I like to call a lookie lu. Of course they have a name for it laproscopy I guess I spelled that right.
I told my producer I'm going to take my camera to every appointment that allows me from now on just so anyone that might need some strength from my experience might get it. I wish I would have had it when I got the results from the CT scan and it read in the first paragraph they saw a grossly normal uterus. I haven't had one of those in 20 years. I had a hysterectomy they removed my uterus and cervix at least that's what they told me. I guess I should have ask to see the old parts you know like when they fix your car.
I should have had it when my husband and I went to the first doctor appointment and I thought it was a tag team wrestling match with my husband and my family practice doctor agreeing on everything from me not using the Internet to find out more to the last commit of do not get all dramatic about this. Wow I am pretty sure that is the last time I will be in that doctor's office again . He always had a pretty bad bed side manner but this time I just can not take it. I left feeling betrayed by my uninformed husband and compassion lest doctor.
I'm waiting to see a gynecologist next. I will enter his doors with the same fervor and zest for knowledge as I always do and I hope to be received well and appreciated for taking a active roll in my health.
I will just say I believe my husband now understands my need to learn as much as I can about what is being said about my body at least I think he does one can only hope.
Love ya, See ya, Bye
Twilla
Saturday, May 15, 2010
Fitness Keeps You Young Part 2
Guest Carolyn Hunter gives some interesting ways to stay fit in this three part installment of Twilla Talk. Join on us for more straight talk about your sexual health at http://www.twillatalk.com!
Friday, May 14, 2010
Fitness Keeps You Young Part I
Guest Carolyn Hunter gives some interesting ways to stay fit in this three part installment of Twilla Talk. Join on us online for more sexual health information at http://www.twillatalk.com!
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Teach Your Teens Abstinence
Guest Carmen Overton discusses the importance of teaching your children about abstinence and offers advice on the best ways to approach your teen. For more straight talk about your sexual health, visit us at http://www.twillatalk.com!
Friday, April 2, 2010
Be Smart and Stay Safe Part II
Guest Dana Willoughby continues to share her insight on how to add excitement in the bedroom while offering helpful knowledge on keeping yourself protected.
Monday, March 15, 2010
I am a survivor
Wow, I"m really blogging this is sooo liberating. I mean I have done allot of set my self free kind of things in my life but this is the best so far.
I had a long talk with lots of people before embarking on such a journey and you know where that got me. If not let me just tell you. It got me all bound up and their went my so called free will out the window and into the of negativity, guilt, anger, jealousy, the list could go on for eternity. I finally just listened to my inner circle of me and got to the business at hand and here I am.
Do not get me wrong I do have a great inner circle of people that where all positive and cheering me on like the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. They have been so instrumental in raising me from childhood physically and spiritually. Make sure you keep following me and you will learn about each of them.
So lets jump right into the fire.
I had a long talk with lots of people before embarking on such a journey and you know where that got me. If not let me just tell you. It got me all bound up and their went my so called free will out the window and into the of negativity, guilt, anger, jealousy, the list could go on for eternity. I finally just listened to my inner circle of me and got to the business at hand and here I am.
Do not get me wrong I do have a great inner circle of people that where all positive and cheering me on like the Dallas Cowboy Cheerleaders. They have been so instrumental in raising me from childhood physically and spiritually. Make sure you keep following me and you will learn about each of them.
So lets jump right into the fire.
I am a survivor in this order:
- My mother gave me up for adoption to my biological grandmother and father.
- I was in a horrendous bike accident.
- My father committed incest with me as a child.
- I tried to kill myself.
- My ex-husbands family poisoned me.
- I became a sex addict at least that's what they call it now.
- I fell in love with and had a child by a married man.
- I married a man 13 years older than me.
- I have been in jail.
- I am helping my husband battle cancer.
WHAT DOES NOT KILL YOU MAKES YOU STRONGER
So I am waiting to here from you.........
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