My Dreams of Sex

I recently had a caller that was very upset about her dreams of sexual activity being so real. She would wake up with sore muscles and vaginally wet.

You know me I first asked did she check with her Husband. She said "He works at night". I asked is he the one in the dream? She said "Sometimes but most of the time it is someone she knows at work, church or even another parent at her children's soccer games". She began to cry and tell me she loves her Husband very much and would never do anything to jeopardise their marriage.

Getting people to talk about deeper issues is sometimes tricky, but I have to at least try so the next few questions kind of caught her off guard but she answered.

Q. Is your marriage sex starved?
A. A little.
Q. Is your marriage in other crises?
A. No.
Q. Are you and your mate having money difficulties?
A. No.
Q. Do the other men in the dreams resemble your husband?
A. Same complexion but not same built.

I'm not a doctor and this is just my opinion as always you should seek a physician for any and all medical concerns.

Now that I have taken care of that disclaimer. I addressed the issue of what a little meant to her, when I asked about sex starved. She said "Because he works at night and her at day it became difficult for them to have as much sex as they had in the past. They do try to make it a priority on the days they are both off or vacations.

I told her sounded like her subconscious is filling in the blanks with people that she is spending more time with than her husband all though she clearly wishes it was him instead she is at work more, at soccer more and probably even at church more than she is with her husband. She thought about it and then agreed, that is the case most days.

Here's a question? Are we super women doing too much, I know I am not the first to ask but really should we try to slow down and do less to receive more.

The last thing I asked her is does she know what a Incubus is. She said "No". I told her the Webster dictionary explains it as 1. a nightmare 2. an oppressive burden. I told her I think both of those fit what she explained. It is a nightmare for her to go through such gratifying sexual encounters in her sleep and quite a burden to her mind that the men howbeit the same complexion, are not her husband.

She came to her on conclusion of asking her husband to seek a day position and maybe cutting back on some of her extra stuff as she put it.

It is always good for people to talk it out and then make their own game plan they have a better chance of success.

Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla