What Is Too Much Sex?

Many of the males I talk to would totally disagree with anyone claiming such a thing as too much sex exist. Webster's dictionary gives a definition for women with so called problem a name, nymphomania n. uncontrollable desire by a woman for sexual intercourse.

Uncontrollable who sets the standard? If every time you are with your mate you have the urge to make love, does that classify as not in control. If you fantasize about doing your mate in a elevator or any public place does that count? Does simply gazing across a crowded room and catching your mates eye makes you desire them so much you make an excuse and leave so you can engage in hot passionate sex, count? All of the instances I just said do happen on a daily basis with some women I know, and I don't consider them to be nymphomaniacs.

I think it's healthy for you to want your mate consistently and uncontrollably, problems usually occur in a relationship when that wanting is not reciprocated by the other. That is a recipe for disaster. Women, what do you think would happen if you whispered sweet uncontrollable desire to your mate on a daily basis same goes for Men? I bet you can have what ever you like. You tell me.

Luv Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla

Do You Need A Man?

Recently I had the privilege of attending a Hen Party. Remember I asked to be invited to one if anyone knew of a group that would accept me. Well my prayers have been answered.

We had a awesome time and there was a good representation of young, middle, and senior women. We even had a toddler running around just like I did in my grandmothers group. It was the best gathering of women I have attended in a very long while. Not judgemental just heartfelt talk, not gossip, real issues we personally are going through.

A big topic was some women wanted men and a couple made the bold statement they did not want or need a man at this point in their lives. I think when we here women make announcements like this most of us think, they have probably been hurt or they tend to want to have relationships with other women. Either way we think something is wrong. As the conversation went on these women made it very clear they just did not want another human dictating in any way, shape or form what they did with their time, money, or anything else. When they got ready to do something they had no one to answer to but themselves. After listening I kinda envied them for a moment.

After my envious thought was gone. I realized how judgemental I had been in the pass when hearing this phrase uttered. I want do that anymore. The next thing is I learnt more about myself by listening to others. I like having a man to answer to when it comes to spending, traveling, budgeting, and just all together living with. I like having him to vent my frustrations of the day, month, year, life with. I am a woman who needs a man. Which are you?

Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla

Till Death Do You Part

If you are numbered among the few couples that have stood the test of time, anger, sorrow, disappointment, regret, sickness, children, in-laws, the list is endless. You have made it to what seems in this day and age a elite club.

Congratulations and keep up the self sacrificing, total commitment, unmovable, till death do us part love for one another.

I recently had a talk with a therapist who insisted that I did not understand what my husband of 28+years was saying to me. That there was a undercurrent of him just keeping the peace. Sure I understand that has played a roll in the past on both our parts we would not have made it this far without it. But you must know that if you talk to a therapist do not let them interject in your relationship what is not there for that particular session. I think having someone to talk to is great whether its a therapist,councilor or clergy. I also know people will sometimes speak to you from a point of reference gained either from their experience or someone else.

I know some might say that's why you should go to a seasoned person, but not everyone can afford the sometimes overwhelming price tag. Lets face health coverage is not so forth coming in this arena.

So keep up the good work and continue to endure. When you are enjoying the fruits of all your labor of LOVE you will be able to share with those just starting out or those pressing through how rewarding it truly is.

Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla

Does Your Husband Know Your Body?

Say your family had a chance at 1 million dollars. All your Husband had to do was pick you out of a line up 10 women. Hold up you know theirs a catch. All the women are the same complexion as you, all the same height as you, same color hair as you, here it comes but you head is covered and you,re naked.

What good is playing this game? It might not when you a million bucks but it could save your life.

Plenty studies have shown and many witnesses have come forward saying the start of a sometimes fatal disease was found by their partner. Women have told stories where their husband in the course having feeling their mates breast every night they felt something different and pressed them to check it out. Later to find out it was the beginning of breast cancer. The holds true for women caressing their mates scrotum and feeling what seem to be swollen or extra testicles. Later finding out it could be cancer or some hormone imbalance.

So if you did not have enough reason in the past to enjoy the intimate touch of your mate add this to the list. Honey I want to feel you up for health reasons.

Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla

Time Well Spent

So, I am late writing my Blog today. Why, because soon as I got through with my walk my husband announces he is going to the neighborhood flee market(wonder why they call it that?) to find a holster. I ask him is that a invitation for me to go? He takes a minute and announces you have so much to do I try not to bother you.

I know we have touched on this before but here it is in action my husband thought he would be bothering me to ask me to accompany him out. I'm telling you I was all over it. I told him it is never a bother for me to spend time with him and I never want him to not ask me because he thinks that again. I would sit in the bathroom with him if he wanted to talk to me, that's just how much he means to me. I thought he already understood. I mean we have been together for 28 years and we are revisiting this issue.

Just goes to show Ladies and Gentlemen we do need to stay on top (no pun intended) of words spoken and unspoken cause you never know when the opportunity to reinvest in your relationship is at hand. Communication is the Key.

Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla

How Much Cleaning Does It Need?

Everything is better clean at least that's what most of us where taught. So whats up with men talking about the scent of a Woman? Did you ever see Al Pachino in the movie by the same name , a classic. I don't know if it was a good or bad scent but it was a scent.

I remember my grandmothers hen parties(women getting together and having conversations about their sexual health and their marriages or relationships in the sixties) they would say stuff like, He can smell her stuff if it was in another state, my husband can smell me coming, if it smell like fish you need some apple cider vinegar, its okay if it smell like onion its just working its way out, and thousands more. As a little girl I thought how repulsive all this talk was, but I hung around like watching a bad accident you just gotta look, in my case listen.

I learnt way back then you only use the red hot water bottle once a month to clean. It still amazes me how we stop passing the information down. The people that make products want you to buy as much of their stuff as you possibly can so sometimes you get the info twisted like vaginal douching. It is good but too much erodes your lining and can cause dryness and then you need another product for that. I'm just saying when in question maybe we can find common ground ladies to talk to a elder of your tribe, you know grandmother, mother, aunt, or maybe someone that you trust or you can call me if I don't know the answer I will call one of my tribe elders.

Wow I really miss those hen parties wish I could find one today do you know any elders still having these? Let me know so I can ask to join. You know you have to ask cause each circle was unique.

Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla

Let's Talk about Sex

It seems I can not say this enough. This weekend in a service I attended the minister just touched on the subject of what my show is about and such a cool wave went over the people. The call to action is now. We must have open dialogue on the issues facing married, singles, and teens when it comes to their sexual health, in our congregations.

When the ministers finally get a word about this the rest will follow. Big shout out to those of you leading the charge your members will be wiser and stronger. They will be able to help a confused, depressed, lonely, soul in need of godly council. So keep up the sex talk, as most people religious or not like to call it. I like to think of it as knowledge about what and how God intended us to use these absolutely beautiful bodies of ours.

Next time someone says the word SEX in your place of worship try not to look like you have never ever ever ever partaken of it. Unless your a virgin and if that's the case shout that from the roof tops. As always let me know what you think if it comes up, no pun intended.

Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla

I WANNA see PAPPY get a SHOT

I did not know my granddaughter could cry so loud. She was totally upset because we sent her from the room as I prepared to give my Husband a shot in his hip.

She protested so much we had to stop and have a conversation about it. She thought since my grandson was able to be in the room she should to. We tried to explain, her brother is a boy like Pappy and he has the same body parts so it's okay for him. She is smart and quick as a whip, without missing a beat she replied, but Uni (that's what they call me) is a girl and she in the room.

Needful to say at 4 years old we had to have a in depth talk about boy verses girl, wife verses husband role. I think my children where 8 to 10 before we had to have this talk. Is it the world we live on that's causing this? Or just being caught in situations that warrant conversation. Then taking the time to thoughtfully explain it to the young ones so they can understand.

Have you had this conversation yet? Let me know how you handled it.

Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla