How Old is to Old?

To Old for what you ask?

A question was ask of me, or maybe I should say my opinion was solicited. If my mate is now using a walker and has a bed side potty, should I bother them about sex anymore?

I must say just picturing that mate in my minds eye was difficult to say the lest. I could only see a feeble old person trying to engage in activities that once might have been considered a gymnastical (I think I made up a word) display of strength and endurance. A question then came to me.

Is the person in question elderly or did they have a accident? Because if it was a accident maybe this is not a permanent condition and they have some rehabilitation to do. Then the mate can resume all the fun activities that come with intercourse. On the other hand if they are elderly maybe different approaches to intimacy should be explored.

The person let me know it was age not accident. I gave some suggestions about exploring the Venus way of making love to the partner or at least that's what they call it now. Lots of time spent touching and caressing each other, washing each others hair, giving a massage, the list can go on and on but no actual penetration.

I got a none responsive look, and then the person said"That sounds like a night of frustration for both of us". I was under the assumption (We all know what that does) the person wanted intimacy with their mate. Maybe because I was not really listening in the beginning when they said the word SEX instead of INTIMACY.

In that case I think the real question becomes and always was about the partner that has the issue of experiencing the onset of ageing.

Maybe it's time to have a very honest discussion with all of our spouses. What do they think too old is for Sex?

Love Ya, See Ya, Bye
Twilla