We are Married why use a Condom

The conversation I just had with a women married all of two days is exactly why I advocate talking about your pass sexual life in detail before marriage.

Her husband informed her on their wedding night he really needed to attend a friends funeral the next day, would she mind if he went? She being sensitive to his needs told him no she wouldn't mind. The next day while he was at the funeral she got a call from a friend asking her why would she allow her husband to go to his ex's funeral, and did she know she had died of complications from AIDS? She told the friend no and waited for her husband to come home. When he got home she confronted him about it and he told her everything was true.
This was the first time they had every discussed pass partners. She asked him to go with her and get tested for HIV. His response was no, I know I don't have it because the girl and I where only together a few times and I am never sick.

She asked me my opinion, I told her sounds like they should be using condoms. If he is not going to be tested, she has to protect herself the best she knows how. If he wont wear a condom then she needs to use a female one.

So many times I speak with singles as well as married people and I have to continuously remind them that if you or your partner have ever had unprotected sex, you have opened the opportunity for any STI or STD to be passed onto your present partner. Think of it like this count all the sexual contacts you have ever had and multiply that by ten, then imagine your mate doing the same and then think about what all those humans could be lying to each other about or in denial.

Everyone in Love enough to want to spend the rest of their life with you. Should be open enough to talk about their sexual past. I think it should be in the first ten things you discuss on a date.

You should practice how you will bring it into the conversation. Practice makes perfect and you wont feel so awkward about it.

Love Ya See Ya Bye
Twilla